Etiquette is one of those topics you either rally for or run from. Either way etiquette is a behavior many should acquire. It is a code of behavior that marked social classes, business greetings, and social occasions. In fact today we have progressed to netiquette, which is etiquette for social interactions using a computer network.  Most of us have been invited to a wedding and attended. Some of you may know how to behave properly while others could use a refresher. Etiquette for wedding guests is something everyone should familiarize himself or herself with.

Once you receive the invitation an RSVP is usually included. It is important to respond in a timely manner. This is important because numbers count and numbers cost. If the invitation is addressed to you and your husband or significant other, don’t call and ask if you can bring the kids. The reception cost is based on the number of guests eating and drinking.  If the invitation is just addressed to you, it is wrong to show up with an extra guest. RSVP is a French acronym, which translated in English means please respond. So do it as soon as you can and don't wait to the last minute.

When you attend a wedding remember you are here to celebrate with the bride and groom. You should attend the ceremony and the reception. If you only attend the reception it looks like you came just for free food. Its ok to bring your camera just don't interfere with the photographer they have hired. You 'll probably get shots he didn't and the bride and groom will be delighted to get those extra pictures. Enjoy the party but don't act like you’re at a fraternity party. If you embarrass yourself at the wedding they will probably forgive you but they won't forget.


If you are asked to give a toast keep it simple and don't remind them of some embarrassing event from long ago. If you are late to the wedding quietly sit in the back so you don't disrupt the ceremony. Make sure you have dressed appropriately.  If it says black tie that means formal for the lady and a tux for you. If it is during the day it is less formal, but if you are not sure ask the bride or groom way before the wedding day. Don't wear ivory or white or any color that would take away from the wedding party or the bride and groom.   This is an important day! You are there to celebrate and focus on the bride and groom. It is acceptable to bring a gift to the wedding or give it to them before the wedding day. If you are unable to attend the wedding you should still send a gift. It is also nice to make the gift personal. For example if you give them a serving dish include a couple of your recipes they could with the dish.


Etiquette is a social behavior that is used in social occasions as well as in business. It is up to you to learn the best etiquette for each situation. Etiquette also varies within different cultures. A wedding is costly and memorable. The memories will last a lifetime and if you make a mistake they will probably forgive you but they wont forget.   So be on your best behavior and have fun.